Got expectations? Lower them.

Got your attention with my title? Good, even if it's not completely accurate. ;)

This is gonna be a fun post today!

And by fun I mean I'm going to write something that might piss some people off. And that's okay, because honestly, sometimes angering people amuses me like nothing else.

Are you ready for my confession? Because here it is...

I read every single review of my book posted that I can find.

I don't care if someone 1*'s me or 5*'s...or whatever other number the reader chooses in between. Many times I will read the review, laugh or frown at the things written, and move on. Reviews of my books are, for me, something I can't manage to look away from. We've all been there - an accident on the side of the road has us craning our necks to see what happened.

Yep, reading reviews is like that a lot of the time.

I love blunt honesty. I don't care if someone hates my book, but I sure as hell want them to hate it for actual reasons that make sense.

If a reader wants their hand held through every single book, making sure the characters state the obvious so the reader doesn't have to remember information from the first chapter when they are reading the 20th, my books are not for them. I treat my readers like the intelligent beings they are and want them to get things without needing to be told. Show, not tell, yes?

Don't like romance? Don't read my books.

The only promise I make in my books is, if they are romance, they will have a happy ending. THAT'S IT!

When I read a romance, I don't begin reading the book and automatically have expectations of the characters based on what I'm reading. It's not my story. I'm not the one writing it and I sure as hell don't have the right to say how it should end.

You're disappointed at the ending? I'm sorry, but how does it honestly ruin the whole story when it's more of a quiet shutting of a door than a flurry of excitement and big booms? Or vice versa.

First person is personal. Period. That means the person telling the story is the character or characters, and they make not speak correctly all the time or even part of the time. This doesn't excuse typos and obvious errors and straight up nonsense, but it does mean the reader should understand the way the person is speaking is intentional. If all my characters sound and speak the same, then they aren't individuals, are they? Requiring proper grammar and sentence structure from the character's voice ALL THE TIME takes away the character and just leaves someone with no personality.

Don't like first person? Don't read my books. Don't like two POV's written in different tenses from two different characters? You may not want to read my books, although this style is rarely done by me and when it is used, it's intentional. Like in Mate.

The reader is free to hate my book for any reason, as long as they understand how foolish they will look when they get things wrong about the book or storyline they are writing a review about. If the reader can't even get the details correct about the story, why exactly are they reviewing the book at all? Can someone even give an honest review of a story when they can't even recall the details properly?

If as a reader you end up reading a book and think THIS IS NOT FOR ME, that's fine. You should state that in your review. It's a completely legit reason, especially when you state it.

But uh, if you pick up a book that is, say, a stepbrother romance and it's right there in the title, then complain about the stepbrother aspect...what the FUCK did you expect?! Same goes for dark romance or erotic romance, books that have dub-con or non-consent or lots of sex, and the genre demands it, yet you read it and complain about that genre doing exactly as it's meant to. WHY the hell are you reading it if you never, ever like it?

Ever heard the quote, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again while expecting different results" or however the hell it goes?

Know what I think when someone complains about something that was made obvious? I think they're an asshole, flat out, who merely wants to be unhappy about something, anything. And I don't think this just about readers. I think this about EVERYDAY people who complain about things made crystal clear if they had just paid attention to what the hell they were doing.

And I know someone will be like "OH MY GOD, NOT EVERYONE WILL LIKE YOUR BOOK" but if that's what you think I'm asking for in this post, you're one of the people I'm talking about with this post!

Somehow we've gotten to the point that the reader can say anything they want, up to and including insulting the author by remarking they should get a new job or how we're greedy, but somehow we're just supposed to hold our tongues. And that's bullshit.

I write serials. If you don't like it, don't buy my books. It's clear in the "part" used in the title, or in the description of the books, and I shouldn't have to EXPLAIN this over and over. I'm not greedy, not by a long shot. It's a method that sells books for me. I have full novels and guess what? My serials outsell my "whole books" by MILES. MILES. So every time someone reads one of the 'free' part one of a book of mine and complains it should be a whole book, guess what? It is and they didn't buy it!

And no, nobody is entitled to read the whole book for free. If they don't like it, there are plenty of freebies out there, so move on.

In that vein, do yourself a favor and stop one-clicking a book that's free without reading the description. READ THE SAMPLE most sites provide so you can see if the story is something you'll like BEFORE you buy it.

Might you hate it before the end? Yes. But at least if you read a bit of it before you buy it, you won't hate it from the first sentence and then spend time 'finishing a book I started because I always do'...who has time for that? Go read something you enjoy. Don't torture yourself and then take out your anger on the author because you forced yourself to finish a book you hated.

Don't get me wrong here. I'm not angry, I'm just frustrated at this tiny slice of the world. We have so many books to read and yet people spend precious time hating on something they don't even understand or like, when they would've known or made an educated guess at their level of enjoyment by spending an extra ten seconds checking out the title they were buying.

And I'm making this post even knowing that I may be retaliated against for having an opinion about something I've seen way too much. Not just on my books, but on other books by different authors, too!

To anyone who wants to begin a hate campaign because of this, please do, and understand you look like an idiot when you do it. Because you're the one with the issue, not me, by the simple fact you would spend your time being a jerk-off behind a keyboard instead of finding something hot to read or even interacting with another person and having an orgasm that might release all that pent up frustration you feel. :)

I love my readers and I love my fans and I love gaining new ones all the time! But if you don't like my books or someone else's books, that's fine.

Chill out, go find something to read in a genre that you DO enjoy, and have a nice day!

<3 Violet

Yes, I am autistic.

Yes, I am autistic.

I am not ashamed of this fact.

It does NOT define me.

I would like to thank you for reading -- both this blog post, and my stories!

I had this really long post written up, but really, I'm going to make this post as simple as possible.

Two years ago, at age 27, I was diagnosed with mild autism (aka Aspergers or high-functioning autism) after years of misdiagnosis' that mostly tried to pin me as "crazy."

It wasn't something I was sure I wanted to be public about. I wanted my writing to stand on it's own, but the truth is, it can...and it cannot.

The way I see the world, the way I feel things both inside and out, and the way I describe things are my own, but they also colored by my autism. I feel, and quite deeply I might add, but in some ways, I also lack.

I am a well-spoken woman who has lots of empathy and no shortage of compassion, but experience relationships differently than others. I'm highly literal, majorly "black-white" in my thinking, and my initial instinct is to help someone fix their problems when they come to me with them, even though I can't manage to solve my own.

The way I react to things would be seen as "hysterical" and "immature" to many people not on the spectrum, but if I write my characters as reacting with what I think would be a mature reaction, I sometimes feel as if the person is not reacting strongly enough. Imagine feeling this way in real life, as I am often unsure of how one is supposed to react to such things.

I'm not good with describing places whether I've been there or not. I don't use location in most of my stories because I refuse to make stuff up about real places, and even with lots of info, nothing catches a location like actually having been there. I am often blind to the world around me and while I can describe colors and shapes, the wind to me is painful and often noises are blocked out by my brain so I won't freak out.

When it comes to characters & their stories, I am very focused on them. To me, unless something is important to what is going on, I don't feel it necessary to describe it. I mainly write in first person, and find myself telling a story as I would see it, and for this reason, little character details are sprinkled throughout the story as they become relevant. Many times, if something is left out, it's simply because I'm unaware people think in such a way.

Why am I telling you this now? Because chances are I will be at a signing one day, and I want my readers to know I appreciate every single one of them. Online when I interact, I am a completely different person.  Here, I am free to write, edit, and change what I want to say until I say it in the way I intend. In person, I will be bound to say something wrong. I am not able to converse normally, I am soft-spoken and often slow to react. I won't look in your eyes, I may mumble, and unless you ask me a specific question, I am often unable to know what to say. To many on the outside, I can come across as rude and unappreciative because I am not what they expect. Physically, I'm unable to stand long and hover on the line of disabled. I need my personal space and don't like to be touched. I am not able to fake a smile, nor am I energetic and outgoing. I am a shy, introverted person who loves and craves social interaction as much as the next person although in a rather limited amount.

This matters to me. I don't want to not do signings because of my fears that I will offend someone or someone will think I don't want to be there. I do, I am simply not capable of expressing it, and my face isn't able to show you. I may come for a short time but not be able to stay the whole time. I may need to walk away or take a break, and in the end, may have a sign indicating this very thing.

I'm not ashamed of my autism. I'm proud of what I've accomplished and of my writing, and I stand by it even if sometimes I wonder if my writing isn't deep enough or detailed enough. Believe it or not, while I cannot read between the lines of other's work, I often am surprised at my own writing when people see the things I wanted them to see but wasn't sure I conveyed.

I've changed my author bio's to reflect this. I never intended to hide it, but I have realized perhaps doing so hasn't done me any favors. I have a unique perspective of the world and I want to share it.

You may love all of my writing, or you may hate some or all of it, and that's okay. Just know, if you ever meet me, that I am just as happy to meet you as you are to meet me, even if I can't smile physically in a way that shows you how happy I truly feel on the inside.